From the bottom of our hearts, thank you for sharing your most precious treasures with us this school year. We will miss all of you. Love FFLC staff.
Please note we will be closed June 8th through June 16th. Please leave a message or send an email. We will reopen 6/17 and be right back to giving tours and answering all your questions.
Potty Training for Preschool
Many parents have been where you are; registering for fall preschool with a child that isn’t quite potty trained. You are nervous and not sure if it’s a good idea. Here are some guidelines:
- Try potty training on the weekend when you don’t have to go anywhere. It is less stressful for everyone that way. Clear your schedule. Break out the salty snacks and the water or juice boxes.
- Don’t punish your child for mistakes. Your child isn’t misbehaving or disobeying you. Your child is learning a new skill. Mistakes are part of the process. Instead of using punishments use rewards, called reinforcers, when your child makes a step in the right direction. The reward should be something your child likes and needs to be given as close as possible to when the desired behavior happened. Five minutes later, or when you get home won’t work.
- Negative attention is attention. Remember about not using punishments? Even if you don’t agree on that here’s another reason. Negative attention is still positive. It is giving attention, which some kids will seek out. It reinforces the behavior you don’t want and will make it happen more often.
- Lastly, use real underwear I know it’s a mess. I know, you don’t want to do laundry. Those pull ups really feel like a diaper though. Make a big deal about the big kid underwear. Go to the store and buy the pack your child picks out. Yes it is obnoxious that they charge $10 for 2 pairs of kids underwear because their favorite cartoon character is on them. Just remember that you can say that Paw Patrol doesn’t want to be peed on.
- Make sure your child is developmentally able to meet your expectations. If you try to potty train and are not making progress over several weeks, consider that your child may not be physically able to do what you are asking. Boys may need to be older than girls, often over the age of three. Remember that potty training is just like any other develomental skill. You can’t punish or yell at your child until they walk or talk. It is the same with the potty. School doesn’t start until September, you still have time. We also accept registrations mid-year.
Registration for Fall 2019
It’s that time of year again! We just began accepting registrations from families that are already attending FFLC. We will open registration to the general public on March 1, 2019.
Early Intervention for Suspected Developmental Delays
Leading an early childhood classroom is a lot more involved than it seems from the outside. Yes we have a circle time and read stories. Sure we are asking kids about their family camping trip. All the while we pretend camp, throwing in letter sounds, vocabulary words, shapes, and fine motor skills, turning play time into learning time. The whole time we are also assessing without assessments. We note which students need extra help learning those letter sounds, and which students can tie the toy apron on before washing the pretend dishes. We also notice which students struggle.
We have seen more three, four, and five year olds and their language, motor skills, attention spans, cognition, emotional regulation, and social skills than most other people. That does not make us doctors, psychologists, or social workers. It does make us the first professionals that may confront a parent about missing developmentally appropriate skills. If we have concerns we may recommend a developmental assessment by a qualified medical professional.
Better Safe Than Sorry
There is no harm in having an assessment like this. If we are overly cautious, and a child falls within the range of behaviors that don’t need intervention, some time and copays have been wasted. If intervention is warranted, it can mean the difference between functioning with a minor or major disability as an adult. Early intervention can make it possible to attend mainstream classrooms, develop typical communication skills, and stop behavior issues. Early intervention can literally rewire the brain. This is why we have difficult conversations with parents. Children that need help deserve to have someone take risks on their behalf.
Why Not the School District?
People have asked, why get a medical diagnosis? Why not go to the school district and get an IEP (or 504 plan) and obtain services that way? That is a great question. We have had students in preschool here with IEPs and we welcome meetings with therapists and other professionals. We have held IEP meetings on site. While an IEP is a great thing to have to protect your child, they are hard to get, don’t cover all disabilities, and you have to meet strict criteria. You child could need early intervention, and you call the school district, go to be evaluated and then they tell you that everything is ok. That false reassurance will keep you from getting the help that your child needs. That is not good for your child. Also specifically with autism, if your child has a medical diagnosis from a doctor that your insurance company usually picks in advance, that are early intervention therapies that your insurance must cover under state of Michigan law. We suggested you try to get both medical/private intervention and help from the school district, and to get the medical intervention first.